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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Get a good attorney.  [b]Protect yourself and the kids financially.  Put him on the hook for college in the agreeement.[/b]  I'd also tell the other husband.  Who knows if he knows or if they are really in therapy.  Liars lie about a lot more than one thing.

Good luck. I'm sorry your husband is a piece of shit. [/quote]

I mean this honestly and truly, what person with half a brain would sign an agreement forcing them to pay for college (which is a 6-figure commitment these days)?

Sure I would be willing to help my kids attend college, but legal obligations end at 18.[/quote]

I tend to agree with this. Who knows where college costs and financial situations will be in 10 years for both parents. It's nice to help if you can but even I as a married parent am not promising my kids to cover their entire college tuition one day. Focus on the here and now OP and the big stuff like holidays and summers and custody arrangements for such. Don't waste energy trying to concoct a plan to hold his feet to the fire 10-12 years from now. [/quote]

It depends on the finances.  I know a few that do have this in the agreement.  I don't know the details but it could be a set amount or maybe the prepaid 529 plan.  Clearly no one is writing a blank check. Financial aid is going to take his salary into consideration even if you are divorced so if he refuses to pay a dime, but his salary is part of the equation ...[/quote]

I have this in my Agreement. In MD, college tuition is not on par with child support when they're under 18. DH fought it tooth and nail, but I didn't cave and got it in the end. It's a fixed amount with some contingencies. You can write, for example that it's X if you each have the same salaries, and Y if not. One of my kids is already in college. In your case it may be an even tougher argument, but it's worth pursuing.[/quote]

Nope. Not happening. I would spend 5-figures in legal fees before I ever agreed to that.

Maybe it was if-this, then-that situation - he got out of giving you the cars by agreeing to pay for college, but still that's messed up.[/quote]

What's messed up about getting a commitment to pay for college if he has the means? You'd rather have the money go to lawyers fees to fight it than have your kid use it for college? That's what seems messed up to me. I would think if AP becomes wife #2 down the line, she'll resist him paying for college so better to get the legal agreement in place now. [/quote]

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