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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]http://www.chabad.org/library/article_cdo/aid/45907/jewish/Eight-Levels-of-Charity.htm

I would offer that some posters on this thread have achieved level [9]: a still even lesser level is when one gives reluctantly, preens about it, and then expects gratitude from the recipients - but only the ones that the giver deems less worthy.[/quote]

+1 bingo! Love the list. [/quote]

NP.  This thread is bizarre.  Do FA recipients really think so little of donors?  [/quote]

I do not think little of donors at all. What I think little of are people who come on this board and do nothing more than berate those of us on FA, accuse of us stealing, being lazy, expecting/wanting something for nothing, etc. etc. etc. It's condescending and simply not true. I am GRATEFUL for the generosity of everyone who chooses to give regardless of their reasons. However, to expect me to be OK with being subjected to their rudeness simply because they have more zeros in their bank account than I do is unacceptable and intolerable. My DC's school costs close to $40K. I pay $25K of that every year, plus I donate to the annual fund. Yet, somehow I am poor, lazy, ungrateful? Seriously? Because I cannot afford to full pay $40K a year that makes me less than? $25K is a lot of money. Heck, that is the annual salary of some. I do not and will not apologize, nor do I feel any shame, for accepting $15K a year in financial aid for my DC to receive what I believe is an outstanding education. The idea that I should is simply mind boggling quite frankly. Again people don't seem to understand what gratitude actually means.  [/quote]

I pay the full $40,000 plus per year for my DD at her private school due to learning issues, otherwise she would be in our very good public school which simply didn't work out due to class size.  What I take offense to is that my husband and I sacrifice GREATLY to make this happen and are not eligible for FA.  In fact there is a parent at our school who has two children on an almost "full" ride and she and her husband drive late year mercedes and vacation twice a year at nice places. They also live in a 5,000 plus square foot house and are doctors.  How do I know this, I have been to her home for multiple play dates between our children so I am well aware of her lifestyle and she of mine.  She is well aware of the sacrifices we make, including the fact that we do not take vacations except small local trips.  I type this not to complain, I am happy with my choice to make this sacrifice and the smile from my child is satisfaction enough, but really, I often wonder if this parent is missing a sensitivity chip or something.  She talks frequently and freely to anyone who will listen about how she plays the system, I encourage you to keep your mouth shut, it reflects poorly on your child if you behave the way this parent and her husband do.  Just a thought :wink: [/quote]

The difference between she and I is that I am not playing the system. I have not done anything to manipulate my numbers. I am paying what we can afford and doing so at a sacrifice. We take modest vacations, rarely eat out and I don't buy anything that is not on sale. My point is that just because I can't afford $40K a year and accept aid does not make me less than.[/quote]

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