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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Apart from all the emotions here, I'm curious how this will be settled as a legal matter. The married couple are raising the child as their own (and that seems fine with exH/bio dad?) yet they're seeking to legally sever ties from he only father relationship this child knows. All this for child support. Is that right? [/quote]

It sounds like it is all about money.  He'd being an idiot for paying child support now without a court order and more importantly, a paternity test.  They are spending thousands on attorney's when a paternity test is a few hundred dollars.  It sounds like "dad" is allowed to be the favorite uncle in exchange for cash.  But, OP is saying mixed things such as mom wants dad to have the kid for 10 days a month to he only gets visits 2 weekly at a public park.[/quote]

OP here- What?  He is not paying child support.  He has not seen the child in months.  If he is required to pay child support, the kid's last name is changed to his and he is determined the legal father, he will have 30/70 custody (around 10 days a month) and 50/50 legal custody.  The family court system now gives generous rights to fathers.

There is no DNA at this point. None.  I have not wanted him to do DNA until my settlement was complete.  She has wanted DNA all along.  He did not do it because I asked him to let me get my child support in place first.

Do you really think she would go this far if she wasn't 100% sure it was his?  Always a small chance but I doubt it.  
My child support is in place.  The child support she receives goes off the reduced income from what we get.

DNA away at this point.
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So now she wanted Dna all along? When you posted about this originally your husband did and she balked:

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/360/419905.page[/quote]

OP here - I was lied to by my husband. Imagine that.  [/quote]

Convenient! All inconsistencies are his lies. Oh is he the one who came here at Christmas and claimed you attacked her lawn decorations and told all the neighbors she was a whore? Or is he the one lying now when your comments claim you never said that....[/quote]

Re-read my response.  I never denied taking down the Christmas blow ups or telling her neighbors she was a whore.  The poster said they lived in a trailer and there was a Christmas party at my house going on at the time. This is completely incorrect.    The story is partially true.

Apparently, and lucky for you, you have never been cheated on.  There is a term called trickle truth, google it.  Rarely, does a cheater disclose all information at once.  They do a really great and super painful thing by disclosing more and more info over time.  Makes you feel retraumatized with each supposed truth revealed.  Cheaters are liars and most only admit to what they think you already know.  What I posted the last two years is what I believed to be true at the time.   What comment did I claim I never said?[/quote]

No you reread my Post. I never said a Christmas party was going on at the same time.  I said that in the same Christmas season as you did that  to her, your husband was at home with your extended family having a good old fashioned Christmas because you asked them to be nice to him. And you did say she lived in a trailer. Why that whole thread got deleted I dont know but I am not the only one who remembered that.

As for retraumatization I imagine if you hadn't mired yourself in this for 2.5 years and kept posting about it over and over and had instead moved on and let your ex husband clean up his mess you wouldn't constantly feel so traumatized.  [/quote]

Says the woman on her high horse.  I don't regret staying in my mess for two years.  I am now stronger and ready to move on for my kids.  Had I left two years ago, it would have been traumatic for my kids because I was a raving lunatic.  Now, I am financially secure, have a great support system, fairly amicable with soon to be ex-spouse and we move on.

Never said she lived in a trailer.  Called her "trailer trash".  Quit trying to quote my past posts and move on.   You, are a f$@king pathetic woman who clearly lacks empathy for others.  Please move on from my post and go harras someone else, maybe your grandma or your elderly neighbor.  Clearly, you are a bully.[/quote]

Good for you, OP. Why exactly are you posting these updates? To bully people who don't agree with you? Because that is exactly what you're doing.[/quote]

Oh good grief! You sound like an ass. I'm not even the OP but you're an idiot and so are your questions!

It's OP's thread, her topic, her life. If you don't like it, YOU need to move on. And yes, you do come across as a bully. You come into this thread for no other purpose than to contradict, argue with, insult and harass the OP.

Unlike your miserable ass, people actually care about what OP's going through and appreciate her updates. The same can't be said for your dumb ass angry, bullying posts.[/quote]

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