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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.

It isn't really about whether you have money or not. Many Pakistani-Americans I know, who come from wealthy families back home, are eager to work. They don't need the money. For them, it is a matter of pride. They go to excellent schools and are ambitious. They're the women with the highest GPAs, do Model UN, are leads in the school play, go to Ivy Leagues, write OP Eds for and think pieces in publications of their choice etc. They also tend to marry well, because their parents arrange their matches, but the women still go on to dental school or medical school and become extremely successful. T[b]o them, it is low class to not have any ambition or want to better yourself intellectually or professionally[/b]. We work, not necessarily for the money but also because as a thinking living human being,it is necessarily to flex our intellectual muscles. [/quote]

Hey OP your duplicity is showing.  First you start off with Pakistani women can't work outside the home and only get degrees in "fluff" subjects and can't choose better careers. Now all of the sudden you flip and they are well educated, become doctors and dentists, write Op Eds, etc.

Which is it OP?

Here's the truth since you can't keep your stories straight:

It's the wealthy and politically connected families in Pakistan that have the privilege of CHOICE.  The women of these families have the privilege of going to school, of working in careers of their choosing, of continuing to work after marriage.

They have that CHOICE because of their socioeconomic status and their class in the Pakistani society.  They are not forced to get degrees and work,but  they are encouraged and applauded because it distinguishes them from the masses of Pakistan.  It solidifies their hierarchy in a society where the average woman does NOT have a CHOICE.

I will state it again for you.  Working is not the privilege. CHOICE is the privilege.

Your elite attitude is very much reflected in your postings which I'm sure stems from class in Pakistan and attitude of looking down on others to make yourself superior.
Some lines you've thrown out under the pretense of your intellectual musings:

" I don't envy SAHM wives at all! I love being able to contribute to society.."
''If she doesn't want a very UMC life, she can live comfortably on her husband's middle class salary sans the private school and the lululemon yoga pants. ''
''it is low class to not have any ambition''
''it is a matter of pride.''

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