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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think many women do give "hints" while dating re the lifestyle they eventually want. They're not saying - I love that you love saving the world; they're saying - this is a good experience FOR NOW. Men either don't catch these hints or ignore them bc they want to marry that woman, and then a few yrs later are SHOCKED when the wife is comparing homes with her doctor sister in law or saying things like - you know best friends DH makes 2x what you make, why don't you consider consulting?[/quote]

I have. My DH is only 27 with a prestigious but a liberal arts graduate degree. I wish he would go into consulting or something and make more than 65K. :(

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Why are you hinting? Why not just flat out discuss it with him and get on the same page regarding income and financial expectation? Or do you not do that bc you think it will cause a rift that will never be repaired?[/quote]

Yes, please do. I'm a middle aged male and have been married for almost 20 years but it wasn't until the last 5 that I realized how much my wife resented that I didn't make more money. I have an expensive technical degree and will never make $100k per year, which has become the #1 stress point in our marriage. (and I thought she married me because I made her laugh)[/quote]

Your wife DOES love you and the fact that you can make her laugh. She is probably sick and tired of being needlessly stressed about money because you aren't self motivated. [/quote]

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