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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why the need to marry the divorced guy/gal? Can you not have a long term relationship and keep the finances separate?[/quote]

That works for some people, but the legal rights associated with being married are pretty well documented. A couple of social reasons I can think of would be:

- want to have a child together and feel that marriage is important for that
- want the social validation of "being married" vs. "being in a long term relationship" 
- personal spiritual commitment[/quote]

+1 I can't believe all the people here who really think you shouldn't get remarried if you have children. [/quote]

Blended families are high drama, high stress environments for everyone involved. That is not fair to the children, who didn't ask for the divorce and who can't say "no" to a new step-parent and who can't move out before they are 18.

You shouldn't remarry if you are divorced and have kids. It's never good for the kids. The person most likely to abuse or molest your child is your new boyfriend or husband.  That's an extreme example, but the spectrum of shitty parenting by step-parents is both broad and deep.[/quote]

This is such complete nonsense. Your absolutism is ridiculous, as is your fear mongering that step-parents are abusers. [/quote]

I wonder how your step-kids feel about you.[/quote]

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