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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No OP, but I can't imagine waking up Christmas morning without my kids, even if they are at their grandparents.  I'd miss them, and they'd miss me.  Maybe they'd befine as they got older, but just seems sad.[/quote]

OP here. This. Plus hotel options near my parents are not exactly stellar. I tried to say up thread that a hotel (for anyone) was not on the table. I'm really okay now. I think the bigger concern is that [b]this is one of the few times a year we'd even see my sister and her kids[/b], so I think it's only going to grow more distance between us. But as many of you kindly pointed out, maybe she wants that.[/quote]

This is a separate issue from Xmas.  If you want your kids to spend more time with their cousins, invite your sister and her kids to visit you more often or plan an additional visit to them (if she's willing to host).  All you can do is make your best effort to be inclusive and accommodating.  If she resists well then it's out of your hands.  But you should at least try to have the conversation with her rather than assuming what she's thinking/feeling.

I never spend Xmas with my sister and her kids -- they live on the other side of the country and my parents alternative holidays between us.  But we ALWAYS go for a week in the summer and fit in other trips as possible.  Sure, it would be great to see them more but she's a single mom with an inflexible job so she doesn't have the money or vacation time to come visit us every year.  She did make the effort to come visit when my babies were born, which I appreciated.  I also grew up far from my cousins and saw them only every 2-3 years throughout my childhood but I loved those visits and still enjoy my relationships with them (yay for Facebook).[/quote]

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