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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I didn't read every single comment here, but I have some random thoughts - Here's how my mind worked when I was in my 20s (female here)

1. Sometimes I really am too tired to go out during the week.  In fact, by the time I was 28, I pretty much stopped going out during the week altogether. 
2. When I first started dating, I didn't know I was supposed to show I was still interested by rejecting a date by offering an alternative. I always thought the guy was supposed to figure this out.
3.  By the 4th date, I usually don't know enough about a person to know if I want to keep dating or not, or be in a relationship. If a guy pushed too hard, my default response was to reject or 'ghost.'  
4. I was notorious (among my friends) for having a phone/cell service that sucked - missed calls/missed texts/etc. In fact, this still happens to this day. I spent the weekend at a friend's farm, and a close friend called me 2 days after I got back, complaining that she called me numerous times and I didn't get a single miscall.  So if a guy were to back away after one unanswered text, it's likely that I never even got the message.

yeah dating sucks. I'm sorry for the OP. He sounds like an awesome person.  I say - keep at it.[/quote]

I think the the main issue here is not that she is busy one night.  It's she was not like oh lets shoot for another week.  And you do get a feel of how a person texts you back and fourth after a month.  But how many of us actually tell someone early on hey this is not going to work sorry?  But I think by date 4 the other person earns the right to get the "talk" that this is not going to work.  Even if you choose to do it remotely if not face to face.  Hang in their OP![/quote]

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