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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow what an overreaction.[/quote]

Who do you mean? OP or her mom?[/quote]

well, mother was rude and overreacted in her own way, but leaving vacation because of that? i don't get it. i always thought these scene in american movies where people storm out of the room felt fake but i guess you people really do act like that. everyone is so sensitive.[/quote]

If her mother came to her and said, "Hey, I'm sorry. I was totally out of line with that comment calling you fat and selfish. I apologize," then yes, storming out might be a bit much. But the mother didn't. [b]Instead she doubled down and called her a bitch. [/b]Why would anyone want to spend their vacation being insulted and belittled??? OP can have her vacation wherever she wants. So she's choosing to spend it elsewhere. Can't believe you don't get that PP. [/quote]

but she called her a bitch after OP cut off her vacation with her parents and sister's family. so it was a not very eloquent comment on a different and [b]entirely over the top behavior[/b].

of course i get it that she can spend her vacation wherever she pleases. i also get it that her mother can call her fat if she pleases etc etc. the point is not what people have a right to do, but [b]what kind of behavior is conducive to good family relationships[/b]. while mother's behavior was unhelpful in that regard, so was OP's reaction.[/quote]

I can't believe you. Uh huh, calling one another names IS conducive to good family relationships? PP you think people should be dormats to abusers just to keep everything appearing hunky dory on the surface so op's mom can pretend she has a happy extended family.  You might want to try therapy yourself because you've missed a very big point about being an adult. [/quote]

who said OP was supposed to be doormat and not say anything? a part of the problem is that [b]she didn't say anything when she was supposed to[/b]! instead of reciprocating in kind she blew it out of all proportion!

if my mother called me fat, i would have called her fat/saggy/some other uncomfortable truth. i certainly wouldn't change my vacation plans which included so many other people.[/quote]

This sounds like an episode of Bad Italian Opera. I don't enjoy or seek drama. I don't waste my time on relationships where one party is abusive again and again. I get pp, you enjoy drama. [/quote]

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