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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A serious question for the posters who say that they don't care about feminism:

I understand that you are happy with your family structure as it is. I understand that the gender roles performed by everyone in your family are not problematic for you and that you are satisfied with the balance.

Do you care that there are women who are not experiencing that? You almost certainly know a woman who has been abused (emotionally, verbally, physically, sexually). Do you believe that that woman should have the right to challenge the abuse, to hold her abuser accountable? If her abuser is her husband, should she be allowed to divorce him? If she divorces him, does she forfeit the right to see her children?

Because we still need feminism. Many women experience equality and feel empowered. There are also many women who are trapped in toxic relationships and not empowered to make decisions about education, career, childbearing, etc. It might seem like a thing of the past to people who haven't lived it, but it's really not. I watched my childhood best friend get pregnant at age 15, forced to marry the father of the child, who was violently abusive. When she reached out for help to her parents and her pastor (you know, the people who are supposed to help you find your way in the world when you're a 16-year-old child), they told her that she must have done something to provoke him and recommended that she try to make it up to him. That was almost 20 years ago. Five years ago, I watched a close friend marry a charming sociopath who methodically isolated her from her family and friends by moving to a very remote part of Texas and then started abusing her physically and verbally when she voiced her unhappiness. She strongly believes that he sabotaged the condoms she made him wear when he demanded sex from her, and when she finally made a plan to leave, he kept her in and out of court for almost a year, trying to claim that she was an unfit mother to their infant daughter because she wanted to go back to university.

The plural of anecdote does not equal data, and if you're comfortable with enjoying your own life and not concerning yourself with the struggles of other women, then by all means, don't care about feminism. [/quote]

It's just not on my radar, nor is it an issue I'm about to spend a day marching on the mall about. I have other issues in my community that I'm actively involved in.

You've made an enormous leap from my apathy over feminism to me now not caring about women who are victims of abuse and rape. It's tough for me to give you a serious answer to such a sophsophomoric question.

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