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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A man should spend an amount that is about equal to the amount his woman spends on her engagement gift to him.

In marriage, both partners are 100% equal, right?[/quote]

The woman should give birth to as many babies as she does.  The man should pay as much for the wedding as the bride and bride's family does.  [/quote]

so the fact a woman can give birth (but man can't) earns her a ring? Also I've yet to see any woman make her own baby without a man's help so his sperm contribution isn't worth a gift for him too?

As for wedding costs: basically i agree costs should be shared and in many cases this does occur when husbands family pays for things like reversal dinner and honeymoon.   But regardless the ceremony itself is far more another gift for the bride versus anything the man would (independently) care much about

In other words your examples do not equalize things in the least. [/quote]

Also for the record the bride's dress is often the same cost as a rehearsal dinner.  The rehearsal dinner and a honeymoon does not add up to the cost of the wedding.  [/quote]

However the brides dress is yet another "gift" for her. In fact, few men really care much at all about all these wedding related things. So the woman is basically the one driving all of these choices and costs, again because these are usually important TO HER.

So we are back to my original statement that engagement ring costs (and weddings in general) are a gift to the woman.
And what does the man get out of it?

I'm married and not actually complaining ... much.
But the women posters above on here whining about how he should have spent MORE on the ring, to them I say this entire wedding nonsense, especially an expensive ring, is all a gift for YOU. Now what have YOU done FOR HIM to deserve all these expensive gifts?  Then after all the wedding bills are paid, why do you suddenly demand total equality in the marriage?

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Hmm well, i am the one that originally said the ring is a gift. I sadi nothing abotu wedding etc. I actually paid for most of the wedding because it mattered to me and he would have been happy with JOP. I pay the cost to the boss. I want a wedding? I pay for anything extra above and beyong what he can afford. What have I done for him? he is able to live in a much nicer house than if he just worked on his own to buy a house. He gets to have a family that he wouldnt have without me. If his car breaks down, I am Johhny on the spot. I can either pick hiom, help shoulder the car repair bill if needed ( he is a grown man and can take care of it on his own for routine things but emergencies? yeah sure we're both all in).  I don;t need to deman total equality in marriage.  I get it because he knows I pull my weight. [/quote]

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