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[quote=Anonymous]If it was OP saying that it was leaving a puppy out who damaged items in the house, I would try to avoid exacting punishing, but use it as a lesson in responsibility and how to   fix such a problem.

If you need repairmen to come and fix items, he has to be there and sit and watch the repairmen work to see how much work that is.

He has to help clean up the initial mess and then help with household cleaning for an hour or so each weekend for X weekends where he has to do cleaning chores especially in rooms that the puppy damaged.  If there is something that is harder to do because an item was broken, he gets to do that.

If there is something that the family can fix, like broken chair or replacing upholstery, then he has to help and/or watch and learn.  I learned many home DIY skills by doing them with my father while growing up.  It was why I had no problems buying my first house as a single 25 yo and doing my own home upgrades and repairs.  So skills like tiling walls, making or repairing wood furniture, repairing/installing closet shelving, replacing lighting fixtures, replacing plumbing fixtures were all things that I had learned from my dad in my youth.  Take the time to show him some DIY skills while repairing the damage.

The point is that at this stage of his life, yes, he will be irresponsible about some things.  As a parent, your job is to teach that responsibility.  Teaching how to repair damages or teaching consequences is your responsibility here.  I prefer that to exacting punishment.  [/quote]

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