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[quote=Anonymous][quote=RHinVA][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's really difficult to figure out what is happening in this thread.  It looks like multiple DW's and OW's posting.

You know, the statistical probability of a husband actually leaving his wife for an OW is very, very low.  I think the husbands are usually just looking for a sexual outlet and not much more than that.

So, if you're the wife, and you found out your dh was cheating, it's not that he's leaving you for her.  He obviously doesn't want to leave you, otherwise he would have done that instead of having an affair.

If you kick him out, he probably won't even date the OW, at least not for long.  Men "affair down" and once they're single they have a different selection and might want someone different from the OW for a life partner.

As for the OWs, they are really very unhappy women with a huge fear of intimacy and commitment.  I think women picture these highly sexual Jessica Rabbit type women, but they're not.  They're usually just normal moms with average looks who happened to make a connection.  If they're unmarried, they spend evenings, weekends and holidays alone.  They're not these sassy creatures out to steal your man.  In fact, if they really wanted a long-term relationship they wouldn't be dating married men.

Also, the vitriol towards the women who dated a married man without knowing he was married - that woman is not what I would even call an OW.  She was just hoodwinked.  [/quote]

You must be a DW :lol:

I don't know what the statistical probabilities are, but the divorce rate is pretty high in this day and age. People marry and divorce for various reasons. But if thinking that DH "affaired down" makes you feel better about yourself, then go on thinking that way. Realistically, people don't date or "affair" up and down, because people are people and not real estate. DH may have chaated because you treated him as a commodity rather than a human being.

What you wrote applies to some people and not others. I'd say it is mostly DW's wishful thinking (from a perspective who has not been on either side).[/quote]

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The divorce rate is actually pretty low and going down.

Look it up.[/quote]

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