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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You don't deserve shit, do it for you kids[/quote]

[b]Why, exactly, does OP "not deserve shit"?[/b] Because she's a woman?[/quote]

Because she is behaving like a self-centered, entitled little twat, that's why![/quote]

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Give her a break, the OP is burned out and right now she is probably thinking how she'll survive another move, especially to someplace she doesn't want. After 18 years she feels she's paid her dues. She probably wants to put down some roots, built friendships, a community, a life and some continuity. instead of dealing with anticipation, anxiety, constant adjustments. Constant movie is not EASY, it is a major stressor to all relationships and she's had 18 years of it. Your easy answers doesn't help. This life involves huge sacrifices by all members of the family.  She wants to go to at least a western country for a change, maybe she just can't deal with adjusting to anything less right now. I do not think she is selfish. She has had the responsibility of keeping the family together and intact during constant changes. That's a lot to shoulder as a trailing spouse with little (family, friends, community, familiarity) support generally. You have to provide the support and foundation for everybody.

But, I don't think divorce is the answer. He should do the tour and then comeback. I don't think the kids will look to kindly to them, having had to sacrifice as well by uprooting every few years and not having much to show than a falls apart family. That would be a hard pill to swallow for all the adjustments they have had to make, even considering the benefits. 
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