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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It does make it more complicated if it is a family OOT wedding and/or one or both spouses have been asked to be attendants.

Every family wedding up until the most recent 2 had been kid-friendly.  And honestly, having the kiddos there was ALWAYS the best part.  So, it surprised me when 2 of my cousins had weddings in the past few years where kids were not invited.

I don't begrudge them having the wedding they want or can afford or whatever.  But there was this whole "oh, why can't you come?" attitude that we got that was a bit upsetting.  Let's see, my parents are part of the family, so there goes the weekend sitter we have used in other cases?  It doesn't seem like much fun to have to have someone sit in a hotel room babysitting while their spouse is at the party?  I'm not going to leave my kid with some random stranger in a town I don't live in just so I can go to a wedding?  I might have attended if there had been a kid's room at the event, but there wasn't, so my parents went and we stayed at home.  I hate missing big events for members of my extended family, but I didn't have much choice.  My two older cousins (brother and sister, both married with kids) did attend, and their dad and mom (my aunt and uncle) stayed back from the reception so that their adult children could attend.  Great for them, but I wasn't going to do that to my parents.  Again, it is what it is, but don't make me feel guilty for having to decline.
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Making you feel guilty or expressing their disappointment? Grow up, when you decide to have kids you know logistics become more complicated. I knew this going in, was this a surprise to you?[/quote]

Um, no, I was saying that there were family members (not necessarily the bride and groom) questioning why we couldn't come.  I thought it was pretty obvious and there should be no guilt trip laid on us for declining.  It's fine that my two older cousins and aunt and uncle made their arrangement, but I didn't feel right about my parents having to miss the event entirely just so we could go.  Yes, I realize having kids can complicate things/change logistics - it seemed like my extended family didn't realize we had choices to make, though.

Now, we did attend an OOT wedding for another cousin where our child was invited, but my parents offered to head back to the hotel with her once she got tired.  Kiddo partied until 9:30 or 10, and then it was time to go and her grandparents were fine with heading out a little early.  We would have taken her out ourselves had they not offered.[/quote]
What in the hell does the reaction of others who are NOT the bride and groom have to do with it?
Either go or don't geeeez[/quote]

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