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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I've been off the board for a few days because well things are just not so good.  When Ted said he wanted to chat we did and he asked me if I knew the guy he introduced me to. I said no and tried to be casual about things and asked him why he asked. He basically said that the guy mentioned that he had met me before. He also said it was at a certain sports event and Ted knows I went to that event. ALso the other guy jerk mentioned that I was there with my girlfriend and Ted knows her.

Anyway, I didn't want to open a can of worms so i was unsure about things but Ted didn't buy it. He didn't tell me anything else so I don't know if the jerk went into details or not. Ted has just been distant these past few days and I don't know what to do or how to behave or what to say.[/quote]

an early PP guy here - he knows or has a very strong feeling you (and your GF) were the girls in his friends' story/escapade.  he gave you chance to come clean but you didn't step up.  you're projecting your anger on his "jerk" friend - but that anger is misdirected, make no mistake about that.

I hate to say it but he's really thinking about your relationship - whether or not he can accept things.  Your out-of-control night is now causing him to evaluate whether there is a darker (wilder) side to you he never saw or considered.  From what you described, he's not the type of guy who would want to be a girl who partied hard (even if for one night but now there's real doubt in his mind).

You have a choice - to come clean (to a large degree) and let the chips fall where they may.  Or try to continue hiding this and let his self doubt or his concern fester into something that will make a real relationship very unlikely.

it really sucks you have to face this OP, but the more you try to lie or hide the truth the worse it will be in the end.  GL[/quote]

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