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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  Thank you for the thoughtful responses and compassion.

Yes - we did discuss this before marriage.  I was already pregnant when we got married (we intentionally conceived), and the issue came up while I was already pregnant.  DH expressed concerns, and I told him that if he wanted me to agree to only 1 then I wasn't going to marry him.  It was a tough situation because I was already pregnant.  But he agreed to keep an open mind about it.

Very early in dating, I talked about how important having children was for me.  And 5 years later (4 married), I still feel strongly about that.  Children - not child.  I have waivered at times because we have had several moves (one cross-country), and DH is starting a business, so I told myself (and others) - oh no, I don't want to another.  It also seemed easier than having tough discussions with DH.

DH, btw, has said that he doesn't want me regret not having more kids.  He has not been unequivocal in not having more.  In fact, I think he wants more - but just doesn't want to take full responsibility for it.

And, yes, I know that leaving him won't guarantee a second child.  But as one astute PP wrote - it would mean not being married to someone who's communication skills, maturity, and integrity I question.

I know the chapter's not over on this one.  I am still hopeful that DH and I will be able to work this out.  He is a lovely father to our one child, and our lives (and home) have room for at least one more.  [/quote]

Has your DH been communicating like an idiot for all four years you've badgered him or is this a recent development? He's told you NO, STOP BRINGING IT UP. Move on if you need to but don't endlessly put someone under the pressure gun for FOUR YEARS and then bitch when he starts to develop an attitude.

So many of the women on this board are so completely out of touch with their own contributions to how things roll in their lives it scares me. It also scares me how many of you have a low opinion of men ----> I get it there are creeps out there but a lot of you speak like you're doing your husbands a favor by your very existence.  Honestly I wish less of you would reproduce.

And OP, your husband told you how he felt before you got married, you just figured you could bully him into compliance somewhere along the line.[/quote]

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