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PP, I was just gonna start a new thread asking if I was the only Asian mom that did not use tutors for their kids that are in MCPS. Glad to know I am not alone.  Any other Asian moms?

What is considered "enrichment" at home?  Taking the kids to the library?  Reading to them when they were toddlers?  Letting them watch educational programs on tv or on the computer?   Then, yes, I am guilty.  But I feel that these things can be done by most parents as they don't really cost much money to do, just gas or bus ride to the library.  I think it's when the parent starts spending huge amounts of money ($80/hr is a lot folks) for tutors that some people start going  :-o  [/quote]

Parental involvement at home leads to enrichment of the kind you have mentioned. Yes, I consider it enrichment because these things are not available  to kids from very low SES groups or parents with low educational backgrounds.  The ability of a parent to sit with their child when they are doing homework and work with them to make them understand concepts, gives the student a leg-up over other students. A calm, stable home environment, a focus towards academics and extra-curricular activities, exposing children to science, art, culture, language at home - pays dividends in school.

[u][b]Many parents who are getting tutors for their kids (who are not struggling academically) are doing it because 1) they may not have the time 2) they can afford it 3) they want their kids to have accelerated education 4) their kids advanced academic needs are not met by MCPS 5)they are not able to teach the subject their kid needs help in.[/b][/u]

I am very comfortable with all subjects from k-12 (except foreign language) and have no issues teaching them anything they need help in, but I am fine if someone hires a tutor to teach their child.  Seriously, there are worse ways to spend $80 an hour.  Many parents spend a lot of money on getting their kids coached in sports. They send them to camps, take their children to games, buy sports paraphernalia etc.  Getting your kid tutoring is akin to sending a budding athlete to a sports camp. I do not see any harm in it.

And if your kid is doing poor academically? Well, if you can get your child braces because their teeth are crooked, then get them math tutoring if fractions have completely bewildered them!

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+1 good post. We do the same. Sometimes, kids just need a little more explanation or someone to work with them to understand it better. I am not help in Math or Spanish so a tutor makes sense. [/quote]

No one is saying don't get a tutor for a struggling child.  What is bewildering is for those kids in ES that clearly are bright to begin with, why get a tutor?  They are just in ES. Aren't you concerned with burnout for such a young kid?  I feel like an ES kid should have a chance to be a kid.  Schools are more competitive now so I know my kid will face the stress eventually. Why bring it on so early needlessly if your kid is already bright, IMO.

And those in low SES can and do take their kids to the library.  You are confusing parents who don't value education vs parents who don't have money.  It's more of a cultural thing, rather than an income thing.[/quote]

I have underlined why someone would get tutoring for their kids even if they are not struggling.  [b]Why would you assume that their kids would suffer burnout[/b]? You may have valid concerns for your own child's capabilities to cope with extra tutoring - but you are projecting that concern on other people's children.  What if these kids thrive because of these kinds of tutoring? We cannot presume to know either what the parents motivations are and where the kid interests lies - for another family. All good parents want the very best for their children.

Yes, many in low SES take their kids to the library and focus on enrichment.  Unfortunately, in MCPS - majority of poor performing students are also falling in low SES categories. So this is a generalization which works for the majority of children but not all.  Perhaps, it is cultural. I would suggest regardless of race and SES, if the parents are  well educated they will emphasize education for their children.

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I did not assume anything.  I asked it.  And you won't know if your ES kid will later suffer burn out or not. You can't see the future, not I for that matter.  But I think kids who are tutored in ES have a bigger chance of burn out later than those who are not.  Does your kid ever get a whole day just to be a kid, learning to occupy himself, not having anything structured for him?[/quote]

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