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[quote=Anonymous]I have a family member who always has hurt feelings. She always feels that people haven't been caring enough, inclusive enough, compassionate enough, considerate enough. She always thinks people are mean to her, don't like her etc..

The reality is - she owns her feelings. I am not responsible for them even though 5 times a week I do something that upsets her. I will not be guilted into believing that it is my responsibility to never make her sad, or unhappy or upset. I will also never teach my kids that they are responsible for other people's happiness or for other people feel. One action could make 5 different people feel 5 different ways - they aren't responsible for being able to control how people feel. I teach my kids they are responsible for their actions and their reactions, but they are not responsible for other people's actions or reactions. If they know they did something wrong in their actions then they need to take responsibility for that, and that they should be aware of how others respond and react to them because maybe they can learn from that and see that their actions need to change, but I will never make my kids responsible for other people's feelings. Some people are angry all the time, some people are depressed all the time, some people are anxious all the time, some people are upset all the time - no way do I put the burden of that on my kids.[/quote]

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