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[quote=Anonymous]I'm a Harvard Law grad (woman) who married a Harvard Law grad.  We've just celebrated our 15 year anniversary, and have two kids.  We weren't dating while we were at HLS.

I didn't go there looking for a guy--as previous posters have said, HLS folks are very driven and career oriented.)  Most HLS folks, while in school, were not thinking of marriage.  No one I knew was thinking of marriage, although there were folks who were hooking up, and other folks who were falling in love.  Marriage just seemed like something far off; emphasis was on the upcoming career.  Marriages happened after law school.   I went to quite a few weddings a few years after graduation and they were equally split between HLS/HLS and HLS/other.

I think the best outcome is when you are also from Harvard (getting there with no connections, just hard work, is possible).  Then you are on equal footing--what I mean is, then *he sees you* as an equal.  The other way can get very old after a while.

Most HLS guys are quite impressed with themselves, and the popular culture that worships Harvard just plays into it.  The students used to joke that there was something called "The H Bomb."  Harvard guys would "drop it" on girls they were trying to impress (sleep with).

Good luck!  It worked out for me, for sure.  But again, we see each other as equals (and that footing has been maintained even though I ended up a SAHM and he ended up being more successful than either of us anticipated).  With the law school guys, please remember they are a bunch of smart guys who are trained to argue, and have been rewarded for being argumentative--so you have to pick through them carefully or you will have a real jerk on your hands![/quote]

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