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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We potty-trained after age 3 (at about 3 years, 4 months) because we did a house move (with 6 weeks in temporary housing) and a school change at age 2.5.  I didn't want to throw too much at my daughter all at once, so I was pretty relaxed about the whole potty-training thing.  I potty-trained late too, and I'm a perfectly functional adult.

once we actually switched to underpants, she was trained in a week and has never had an accident.  A lot of the kids I know who trained earlier had many accidents and weren't actually trained for a long time.  what's the big deal about an extra six months in diapers?  (and yes, my daughter was speaking in paragraphs at 17 months, so it might have been unsettling for folks to see her in diapers. Not my concern.)[/quote]

At least this poster acknowledges that she trained late due to her own convenience. My point, and I am not OP, just a PP, is merely that your child did not determine to wait until after 3; you did. So, you should be comfortable with the fact that that says something about you as a parent. It just does. Just like if your child ran around in restaurants at 3, or any number of other behaviors that you might agree reflect on the parent. Potty training timing is, by and large, absent special needs, a parental decision. If you choose to wait until 3 or 3.5, expect people to notice. I am glad your child turned out fine if you waited. I am sure that the three year olds tripping waiters as they run around a restaurant will turn out fine, too. That doesn't mean people don't look askance at their parents for what's going on now. If you think it is terrible to judge, ok. I am sure you judge parents on other issues. [/quote]
I think you have massive delusions regarding the importance of your approval for other people.  Who cares if people look askance? Who cares if they notice? You and your ilk keep bringing up your feelings of surprise and disapproval at playgrounds etc.  like anyone cares.  I'm not raising my child to gain validation points from perfect strangers.

Another thing you and your toilet training clubmates lack is the ability to find truly suitable comparisons.  A 3-year old running 'round in restaurants is a hazard to waiters and other diners. A 3-year in diapers endangers no one. His diaper isn't going to jump out of his pants to rub itself on your face.  It sits on his bum quietly and unassumingly, doing its job and minding its business. You should, too.

Potty training timing is no more a parental decision than it is a parental decision to give food to a child.  You can put him in his high chair and fasten his bib and waive a spoon by his mouth. If he ain't ready, the food ain't going in.[/quote]

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