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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I stepped back from my career that I loved to raise the kids. The reasons were:

1) just being pregnant was really hard on me
2) giving birth and recovering from that took time
3) men cannot breast-feed, if you want to breast-feed your baby, it’s on you. Pumping doesn’t really solve that because you still have to wake up to pump.

[b]Between #1 and #2, a year is gone. Then another year for the not sleeping through the night phase and #3[/b]. x3 kids and you have six years. At that point you have a two, four, and six-year-old, and it is really tough to have both parents working in demanding full-time non flexible jobs where you cannot work from home at all, possibly unless you have some reliable family help. In my experience, hired help isn’t the same, they’re just not as dependable, it’s tough to get them to work the hours that you truly need, and frankly they’re not as good. And then the kids get a little older and things get easier, but then something like Covid hits and they are home again, and since you’ve been the one home all along, it’s still you. Then you get into the high school where the demands, stress, and the drama increase, plus you have been out a really long time, and it just feels like it doesn’t make sense to try to go back. [/quote]

What kind of nonsense is this? Your kids didn't sleep through the night FOR TWO YEARS? FFS. This is the kind of ridiculous rational that make work people come up with. Oh I couldn't possibly have a job because I have to hand make our soaps and that just takes so much time! Please. [/quote]

Why are you denying the simple practical reality of child birth and early years  ? My son didn’t start sleeping through the night until age 2. The PP with 3 kids is describing the real dynamic of early childhood.  Add one neurodivergent child to your family - all career aspirations will change unless you institutionalize that child.

Also you didn’t respond to my stats that in fact American women do want to work, they do work and bring 45% of joint income WHILE also being primary parents to their kids. You keep insisting that women don’t take enough responsibility. You are spitting hateful BS not supported by mega data besides Finland (which is a result of a very long term crafted government policy). [/quote]

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