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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Reality is that a big chunk of women don’t play the long game on careers. The issue is entrenched long before kids happen. Having kids just highlights the issue, because by late twenties early thirties, it’s the exact time when you need to switch from the easy job hopping of your early career vs double down on a real career. A lot of women aren’t into that idea, and stepping back is a convenience for them at just the right time.

Many of these women will cite their fancy college degree and five years of work experience  for the rest of their life as proof of all their sacrificed. Because that’s a better look than the reality that they were never really on a track to much of substance.

FWIW this is not me or any of my best friends in life, who all have full careers in our fifties. But we all met in college and clearly gravitated to a certain kind of woman. There are enough women who -don’t- sacrifice their careers that it’s clearly not required and it is clearly a choice for the vast majority of women who do so sacrifice. But they don’t want to admit they took the path of less work because they wanted to. [/quote]

[b]I didn’t have a choice as a woman.[/b] My exH was 11 years older and requested I choose a less demanding job because he traveled. I personally think it’s best for women  when they  don’t sacrifice their career. Husbands would be more involved in raising their kids and more bonded with their children reducing the risk of divorce.

But the crucial career years late 20-early 30s usually is when women are expected to birth children. And given the corporate environment these two things are incompatible.

Btw if your wives were truly successful in their careers they would be already retired by mid 50s 
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You had a CHOICE not to marry that guy. Seriously, stop with the woe is me stuff, it's so annoying. [/quote]

Accountability is kryptonite. Every failing is externalized (no choice, systemic, patriarchy), unless they want to cosplay as empowered and full of agency. The same person will take on each persona at different times, depending on what suits them situationally. You have to laugh.[/quote]

Why not ask why these men don’t take accountability for their own choices? [/quote]

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