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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op - my first preference over a basis or a Trevor would be a bronxville/ Scarsdale/ rye etc. Def open to some of the publics mentioned here also. Basis is a joke, I feel, and also I could have sent him there years ago and saved money if I thought it was up to anything

The standout thing to me is their list is incoherent. Trevor/ LREI, Dwight and basis have only in common that they are relatively easy to get into. The same student who thrives at lrei is not the same student who thrives at basis. I feel like we are just saying it needs to be an easy get for him bc he’s an undesirable student, rather than they had a thoughtful assessment of his profile that we’ve all been discussing for some time. As for the ISEE yes he has taken practice ISEEs and had quite varying results with the first one in high 8s and then when he took it again more variation.

I guess my expectation was that they’d suggest a couple ‘stretches’ eg a fieldston, a packer etc.. maybe a Buckley. And then some mid range - I wouldn’t have been surprised to see LREI in there. But it feels like we are just aiming for the lowest rung without us being prepped for that outcome along the way [/quote]

Buckley is a K-8 and Packer has gotten very competitive.

I’m not sure moving to the burbs is your solution. Have you thought about the lifestyle adjustment and the social impact to your kids. The teen years are hard. I wouldn’t make it worse by forcing an unnecessary move where the kids will likely have less freedom and social outlets. Also, some of those Westchester schools can be real pressure cookers and difficult to navigate socially. I would not make the move just for the schools. Have you asked your kid about the type of school they would like to attend?[/quote]

op - yes they would like a school with a lot of sports and that is academically 'good'. he has expressed interest in the burbs. 
It will be an adjustment but I can't keep throwing huge amounts of money downstream at schools where the ROI is so arbitrary. If I could go back in time i would 100% choose public. Saving and investing that money would have been much smarter IMO than a situation where I will have thrown over half a million dollars at a school who comes up with 'have you thought about basis or dwight' as their best suggestion. I'd have been able to buy him an apartment rather than hoping he can buy it himself in a world [b]where he's gone to dwight and lehigh and anyway[/b] AI has taken all the jobs. [/quote]

I was with you and sympathetic until this point. Now I think you are unhinged and there is just a bit of schadenfreude. Your kid is in 7th grade and you are predicting his life is screwed up because of his K-8? And Lehigh is a perfectly fine school.

Your kid probably takes after you: a total lack of resilience, an inability to think creatively and problem solve, and a lack of work ethic to earn what you deserve (e.g a school better than Dwight/Lehigh) Btw. I have no affiliation to any of these schools and colleges as I am from DC where my child attends a rigorous school and got into their first choice for college. [/quote]

Op - well if he takes after me he’ll go to an ivy and make 7 figures so let’s hope so. But sure - go off [/quote]

If you make 7 figures then you wouldn't be whining over and over and over again about how much you are spending for private school. It would be a drop in the bucket.

At first you came across as somewhat sincere. But you have really gone downhill over the course of this thread. Perhaps the people at school think you are the problem and TT schools will interview you and quickly figure this out and not let your otherwise qualified kid in?[/quote]

1mm a year is about 500k after taxes in NYC. She has three kids at this private, so subtract 210k from that. She has 290k in discretionary income.  You do the math on a mortgage, monthlies, summer camps, and 1-2 reasonable vacations a year. 1mm is nothing in nyc without strict budgeting. Of course, you wouldn’t know that if you made 10mm+ in nyc or if you weren’t from there.  So no, she is not rich, not even close, and she should be furious about spending this money for……Dwight  [/quote]

1. I didn't see that they had three kids. This thread has gotten out of control so not easy to keep track
2. Still doesn't excuse the whining
3. If they have three kids (there are male posters here so I prefer to be gender neutral), they should have thought about this before a) having three kids, and b) starting them out in private
4. If they have three kids, how they interact with the school, what they choose for HS and potentially moving to the burbs impacts a lot of people, not just this one kid. It is a very different conversation
5. This thread is out of control and is really dumb. On to bigger and better things.
6. Go Knicks![/quote]

I think her “whining” is helpful for a lot of parents considering K-8.  They now know Dwight is perfectly acceptable as an outcome and no cause for alarm if that is the most likely end point for a given 5th grader.

Again, any reasonable parent paying 500k+ per student (700k+ for those entering K-8 now) would be PO’d at Dwight as an outcome with a major heads up.

I don’t think it’s unreasonable to have three kids. Nowhere does she whine about them or the expense of three. [/quote]

Don't have three kids and complain about the expense involved. If it is critical to you to be able to pay for private school (and it apparently was for this parent as they opted to do so), then don't have three kids if paying for private school will be a burden.

Having kids is a business decision. I hate to take the romance out of it. Especially having more than two (obviously excluding those who have twins).

If this parent could have easily afforded private school, they would not be going on and on about wasting their money on it. But clearly sacrifices were made.[/quote]

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