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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]That aforementioned 1,2,3 thing has come up at work and at home.

Once had to fire a COO who just sat around until someone asked a key question or explicitly asked him to do something. Then he’d do it and half the time not finish or mess up. Not sr mgmt.

At home my spouse is asd/adhd. After years of trying to get him involved and everything failing, he’s systematized out of most things. He probably loves it, but we really couldn’t keep up with the constant setbacks (agreeing to do things and not doing them - fill up gas tank before road trip, handle the taxes, booking the flights correctly). So he just works. I don’t wanna know how that’s really going, he’s so senior people prob pick up all the slack. [/quote]

I don’t understand why you would give your ADHD spouse tedious one-time tasks to do and then get upset that they weren’t done correctly the first time.

This is like giving your blind spouse responsibility for getting the kids to extracurriculars and then getting upset that they only do things within walking distance of your house or you have a large Uber bill.

Are you stupid?  Or just mean?  
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Exactly. Send him to the special needs home or back to his mother who never got him treated. [/quote]

So, if your spouse was blind, instead of, say, having them make dinner every night, which they could do, you would make them responsible for driving the kids, which they could not easily do, and then mock them for having special needs?

That doesn’t seem kind of crazy to you?  [/quote]

More like a nearsighted person refusing to wear eyeglasses and then doing nothing. 
That’s similar to an adhd person refusing to do the work with their therapist or executive functioning coach, and doing nothing.

Doesn’t that seem crazy to you?[/quote]

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