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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A few pages back you wrote that your mother had six kids. Is she expected to watch ALL of her grandkids, or just yours?

What if one of your siblings needs her for fill-time care? Will you give up your free childcare for your sibling, since I assume your mother is obligated to help all of her grandkids?[/quote]

Yea, she’s expected to watch all the grandkids, but she only watches mine and my 10 year old niece who’s homeschooled, regularly during the week. If one of my siblings needed full-time care, she’d watch theirs at the same time as mine, no problem.[/quote]

Here’s how I know you’re a troll:

She’s “expected” to watch all the grandkids?

No, she is overly gracious and willingly assists you with the children you brought into this world.

She does this out of love and not obligation because there is no obligation.

I can’t imagine anybody would be so grossly entitled as to think their mother owes them childcare. And so: troll. [/quote]

Yes, in our family it’s normal for grandparents to help with their grandkids. If having my mom watch our children makes us “entitled,” then wouldn’t that imply that she’d be entitled for expecting us to care for her when she needs it? It goes both ways—it’s not one-sided.

In my family, children aren’t seen as a burden, so no one views this as “free childcare.” It’s just part of being a family. For example, my brother-in-law left his three-year-old twins with us last week so he and his wife could take a spring break trip. We made it work without complaining or refusing—that’s just what we do for each other.

My mom isn’t resentful or overwhelmed caring for her grandkids; if anything, she’d be bored without it. She genuinely enjoys being involved in their lives. Like I said before, my MIL will also be babysitting my kids regularly from now on, so responsibilities would be fairly split.

I also find it confusing that so many parents say they don’t have a “village” to rely on, yet arrangements like this are sometimes criticized. [b]This is exactly what having a supportive family network looks like.[/b][/quote]

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

No, it's not. This is what trashy dysfunction looks like. [/quote]

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