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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here. I feel like some of you posters are holding me responsible for my FIL’s boorish behavior. He’s been a weirdo his whole life honestly and is paying for it now. He’s fully alone with minimal friends and no spouse. But instead of making any changes he’s doubling down on his behavior. I don’t think there is anything I can personally do to change him. My husband has said things to him but he either brushed them off or cried and acted wounded. Really don’t know what the best course of action could be going forward. We don’t see him much anyway. I really appreciate how (some of you?) listened and provided thoughtful responses. My heart goes out to all of you stuck with similar selfish old men. I’m off to Costco to replenish all the things he stole. [/quote]

He sounds quirky and harmless to me.  It sounds like no one has accepted him for who he is (including his family) and he gets told he is doing things wrong.  [/quote]

I mean, would you take unopened Costco sized packages of food from a house where you've been staying?  Some of you have really poor manners if you don't find this behavior "wrong."[/quote]

It’s wrong but easy to shrug off. It’s fruit. If you want to end a relationship over some melon just say so.[/quote]

Sure but I was responding to the previous comment- I would find that behavior annoying, not "harmless and quirky" and would not invite him back.[/quote]

Ok. I’m sure OP’s husband will be on board with never having his father back over some cut up fruit. OP will do nothing, as these things go.[/quote]

If you go back and read the OP, it was more than just that, but it does sound like his exit behavior pushed it over the edge.  FIL does not sound like a good guest.  Hosting overnight guests is tiring even when they act properly- my parents just left after staying with us for two weeks and they are actually considerate and helpful people and I still needed a day to totally decompress after they left.

Actions have consequences- e.g., FIL prioritized relaxation and cleaning out the fridge over getting a return invite.  That was his choice.[/quote]

You know that FIL will be visiting again soon which is why people like OP complain for years about these things. Men aren't going to cut off their fathers over groceries.[/quote]

Men also don’t have real relationships. For example, this one is fake as F. 
He comes over, says nothing, eats everything, wants to stay overnight, takes the pantry home and leaves.  
What a relationship indeed. And he’s modeling this for kids in the house!?! [/quote]

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