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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What happens when you ask him to park in the street instead of the driveway?[/quote]

He parks in the driveway. I ask him to move. He says to just tell him when I need to leave and he will move. And my husband says to chill out and since he, husband, doesn't care if folks park behind him, he, husband, isn't going to back me up on this.

I know. It's 90% a husband issue. But he's almost 70 and I'm not changing him.[/quote]

You may need to start parking on the street yourself.[/quote]

OP here. I have! Rather than block people in. I figured I'd model what I request! But honestly, between rain, cold, and unloading, I'd like to park in the lovely garage. There has to be some perks to being one paying for the place. (And the cars! He has my old car)[/quote]

That’s annoying, but less annoying in the end I suspect.  You could try one more time with DH and ask that adult step son be assigned a parking place that works for all of you. If that doesn’t work, I think u need to park on the street (control what u can control)[/quote]

F no.

If the stepkid does this, what has to happen is that her husband moves his car to the street and she gets his spot in the garage.

Every time.

The dad needs to be the one to man up and either talk to his son or deal with the consequences of his disrespect. The son specifically parks behind her spot in the driveway because he doesn’t want to inconvenience his dad. This is the only way to send a clear message that he’s being a dick in a way that he will understand. [/quote]

Everything in her post suggests her husband is too weak to solve the problem, so OP will have to do it herself.  Just sit them down and tell them both firmly and clearly that he can't park behind you ever again under any circumstances, because you are an all-call physician. If your stepkid continues to park behind you, you're taking back the car you gave him.   Until you communicate clear boundaries and enforce them, you're going to keep getting walked all over by your weak husband and disrespectful stepkid. [/quote]

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