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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP seems to be changing the narrative to a more negative childhood when people didn’t support her original statement.

My parents are elderly and sometimes is it taxing to hear the same stories repeated or stressful to help them do things they’ve never needed help with before? Yes. But it’s also difficult for them to lose some of their independence and experience some cognitive decline. The expectations that some posters have for the elderly is ridiculous.

I am grateful to still have them in my life and appreciate everything they’ve done for our family over the years. As parents now, my siblings and I have a much better understanding of the things our parents juggled and sacrificed for us and how they’ve been truly wonderful grandparents to our kids.

So if we hear the same stories or listen to them as they complain about ailments, we accept that it’s part of the natural life cycle. [/quote]

Seems that your parents have been great grandparents, which is a strong signal that they were actually pretty darn good parents themselves. The fact that the OPs father has no relationship with his grandson, OPs son, speaks for itself. Often parents who are really not that good are not able to have functional relationships with their grandkids, because they actually cannot relate and never have. This is not something that happens overnight, it's always been there. [/quote]

OP here, I have to say it’s not entirely my dad’s fault he has virtually no relationship with grandkids (he has other grandkids too). 
He lived far away from his children and barely saw his grandkids as they were growing up, for many reasons. 
It’s really hard to say who is to blame here so I decided not to fault anyone for it.[/quote]

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