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[quote=Anonymous]"I am someone who will never remarry who has commented on this thread. I am 48 (f) and have been divorced for 6 years. You don't know what you are talking about. Many people who are divorced don't want to remarry. It (marriage) was bad the first time...only a stupid person would put themselves into a marriage again. You can have a girlfriend/boyfriend. Cohabitating or remarrying is kind of stupid financially and legally past 40. You are not "buliding a life" at that point. You've made those decisions already. Just enjoying time with someone is all that is desirable. Overcomplicating it like you are in your 20s is completely immature and unecessary. Most divorced people I know share my position. There is a reason remarriage rates have gone done. It is just not worth it. Once is enough."

Wow! This discussion clearly touched a nerve.

It's interesting that your arguments in favor of not remarrying consist of nothing more than assertions that it's something only a stupid person would do. Can you articulate even one actual reason that two adults who see one another as "their person" should not join forces in marriage or in a marriage-like situation? Why would that make them stupid?

If you're one of those people who believe the only reason for marriage is to have children, do you also believe that people who are infertile at 25 should never marry? What about married couples who lose their child to some horrible disease or accident? Should they divorce since there's no point to being married unless there are kids?

And as far as not building a life together, are you truly so blind to the fact that many people continue to grow and thrive well after the age of 50?! I know people starting new careers at that age. I know people using those years to actively sock away as much money as possible for retirement, which is much easier to do when you have just one mortgage between the two of you. Most professionals don't retire until their late 60s. The retirement age for full SS benefits is 67. OP has 21 years till he hits 67. Hopefully, he has another 15 years after that do enjoy life with "his person."

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