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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think we’re way past the peak era of “boy names on girls.” There are some still hanging in there (Charlie, Blake, Emerson still ranked high) but I think of that phenomenon as a 90s-pre Covid 2020s thing. People seem to love the super fanciful princessy names for girls these days. [/quote]

I think around 2020 is when it started to dawn on people that trying to make little girls masculine was actually maybe a very anti-feminist thing. Obviously if a girl doesn't want to be feminine or perform femininity for others, she should absolutely be allowed to. I'm actually pretty androgynous most of the time. But there was this phase that a lot of Gen X and older Millennial parents went through where it was like they wouldn't let their girls be feminine even if the wanted to. Like "no, your name is Finn, you are sporty, your favorite color is green, and you want to be an engineer." And if that girl wanted to wear pink dresses or liked princesses or wanted to be a ballerina, that was wrong and bad.

I had a DD in 2016 and about half of the parents I encountered were like that. And the other half, which I belong to, was like "uh, what's wrong with pink and dresses and playing with baby dolls and liking stereotypically feminine things? why are those things bad and stuff you associate more with boys good?" Because that's actually a lot of internalized misogyny to decide a stylistic choice or interest is bad just because it's associated with women, right?

And now 10 years later it's more like 20% of parents I meet who still think girls liking feminine things is terrible, and most people have figured out that it's okay if your DD has a feminine name and loves pink and wears tutus for fun. She can do all that and still be a worthwhile person, there's nothing inhebtly better about masculinity.

But it's been a real journey over the years and I've heard a lot of supposedly feminist people say bizarrely critical things about femininity. People brains really broke a little there for a while.

End of rant, this is just something I have encountered a lot and it drives me crazy.[/quote]

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