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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Where do you live? You have to hang out with people a level below your own income level. We haven't moved out of our starter home for this reason. I want to HAVE money, not be around other people with money. Most of them are exactly like you describe.[/quote]

This this this.

Not just income level - but "status level" (educational background, job titles etc.).   And then keep your status/income level to yourself.

And then just don't engage.  Someone wants to take over the PTA or the pool board with some sort of Game of Thrones style machinations?  Who cares.

It's not that those types of women aren't out there - there are plenty of women who aren't mutual frenemies or minions. [/quote]

What if you are just middle class, so the only people below your income/status level are working or lower class?

Alternatively, what if your social class and economic class don't match? My spouse and I are highly educated from "good" schools that have a lot of status, but we have middle class status jobs and a middle class income.

I'm genuinely asking. We wind up living among UMC people but being the lowest status people in that community, which is an uncomfortable situation and I think makes me a target for these sorts of women who initially wish to turn me into an acolyte and then, when they realize I don't like that, they use my low status as a punching bag to elevate themselves.

I don't want to live in a poorer community because I value education and schools in poor and working class areas tend to either be not great, or they are great but are focused mostly on helping a poor kids (which makes sense) and might not be a great place for my MC kids.

So where do a I go to get away from this dynamic, or, if there's nowhere for me to go, how do I protect myself from these women using me as a weird foil for their status games? What I want is to just float in the middle somewhere without attracting attention.[/quote]

Are you the OP?

I posted before that I used to be a tomboy and never hung out with these types. I guess we are the opposite because we have the highest income. Many of those queen bee types in our area are UMC but not super rich.

I have three very social children who I guess are popular so those moms are nice to me. DH is also well regarded so those wives play nice to me. I don’t want to hang out with any of those women personally if I don’t have to.[/quote]

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