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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ok, your husband was sounding like my STBX. After your latest post about his temper, being closed-off about sex, watching videos and just overall solitary personality...the two guys sound identical.

I'm going to warn you right now to be prepared for incredible aggression and even physical violence when he understands you're serious about leaving.

Take this very seriously.

He's not going to change or try to hear you. He's going to let you know you're not leaving without blood metaphorically and even physically being drawn. You're going to watch that apathetic, dismissive man channel a level of rage you had no idea was there. Be ready to record him and get a protective order.

I still don't know what is wrong with my ex, but there is something extremely wrong on the personal and mental level. Just get out. [/quote]

OP here. This summer I discovered a bunch of degrading content about women, including some violent ones.

I was so disgusted and disappointed and angry. I confronted him about it and it was all brushed off.

I have tried to bury that but now that I thought of it again, it just makes me want to be done.

I'm so sorry for your terrible experience. I hope you're in a better situation now.[/quote] your husband sounds eerily like my ex. Things got really bad when I left. Just be ready. Mine became super cold and hostile, just pure hatred directed at me.[/quote]
I'm the PP who posted upthread that OP's husband sounds just like mine. I see there are three of us here. I bet there are many more reading along who just don't feel like posting. Men like this is not rare. Narcissistic men with sociopathic personalities abound. The steps they follow are identical. They trap a woman through various devices. They give her the slow boil treatment by ramping up their awful behavior over the years, starting with neglect, gaslighting, and stonewalling. They become outright demonic when she tries to leave. I'm glad you got away.[/quote]

Raising my hand as another one here. Mine shocked me by leaving me. And then went from unmanaged AuDHD territory to legitimately scaring, threatening, and maybe psychotic? It was especially shocking because he made the choice to leave and still punished me for it.

Although mine was diagnosed with ADHD, sleep apnea, and later autism, I think that there are probably issues with differential diagoses between these kinds of things annd sleep problems and narcissism or sociopathy. What looks like AuDHd to a clinician during a few half days of tests can look much more like covert narcissism or sociopathy in the context of someone’s long term behavior.

“Super cold and hostile”, as pP said, describes my STbX perfectly during the divorce process. The thousand yard stare of hatred that my sTBX does while clenching his jaw so hard his veins pop out convinced me that is not “just adhd”. It’s terrifying.

If I could do things over post-diagnosis, I would not commingle a single cent, I would get every single password and document locked down, and I would start talking to attorneys.[/quote]

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