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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My drive is higher than hers, so yes I do watch porn. But I don't let it interfere with our marriage - I will only watch porn after having sex, when I know it won't happen again for a few days. The scenario I want to avoid at all costs is where she initiates but I have to decline because I just took care of myself. In 20 years together this has never happened.[/quote]

I don’t buy this mismatched libido excuse as the reason you watch porn.  It seems pretty flimsy from an outside perspective.   If your drive is so high, why do you have to use porn to take care of yourself?

I understand taking care of yourself when you are turned on and your wife isn’t interested, but what you are saying is that you are using porn to get yourself turned on specifically at times you think your wife won’t be interested (not that you ask her).  This isn’t about your high drive.  This is about the dopamine release you get from watching porn. [/quote]

So? Who doesn’t want a dopamine release? You’re not in charge of your spouse’s dopamine.[/quote]
This. And not all dopamine releases are created equal. Ideally the dopamine release from sex is greater than that from porn. If that's not the case it can certainly become an issue.[/quote]

NP.  Agree with you on the science behind this:  specifically:

- dopamine release.

Skiing, motorcycles/ fast cars, skydiving (indoor or out), MANY activities really boil down to:

- dopamine release.

Getting back to pron, it is simply a shortcut to faster dopamine release while doing “self care.”[/quote]

You do realize there are like 9,000 things that give you a dopamine release that are not skydiving, right?[/quote]

Hey, skydiving, scrapbooking, skeet shooting, knitting, s*x, horseback riding, stamp-collecting, water-skiing, wearing a certain brand clothing item, rock-climbing:

- whatever floats your boat or lights your rocket.

People get their dopamine hits all sort of ways. [/quote]

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