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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you don't seem to understand your own feelings very well, let alone hers.

You saw her regularly and then didn't. You probably feel a mix of lost and loss, sadness and defensiveness. Maybe some anger.

She's going through a tough time. She probably feels tired, frustrated, and overwhelmed. She probably wants to spend what little free time she has having fun, resting, letting loose, or with people who understand her.

Given that she was one of your favorite people, your spending time with her did generate some positive feelings for you.

In contrast, spending time with you didn't make her feel good. This may be, as you put it, due to your kids. But it also seems like you're emotionally deaf, which means there may be lots of times when she didn't feel great and you didn't pick up on it.

It's not too late to make things better, but first you need to do some soul searching. Or else just drop her and focus on other friends who do like spending time with you. You probably have other positive qualities that draws your other friends to you. No one's perfect.

Good luck.[/quote]

The single biggest change for all of us is that we used to be SAHMs and we are back at work. [b]She has to go in daily while my job is more flexible and hybrid. [/b]

She has been texting me from work. I suspect home life is not good in several areas.[/quote]

So your husband makes more money, your kids are easier, and your job is more flexible and you don't understand why this women whose single thing in common with you seems to be the number of children you both have is busier than you right now?[/quote]

I was going to say money has nothing to do with it but we outsource most all housework. [/quote]

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