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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I grew up in a Catholic family, and if I were attending the funeral of my sibling's little child, I would just take communion even though I don't believe.

I would consider it my duty to do WHATEVER I could to minimize stress to everybody in the family.  I would think taking communion and keeping my mouth shut about it were the LEAST I could do.  I can't imagine being so self-absorbed as to make a thread about myself and whether I should take communion at my tiny niece's funeral.

If they wanted you to stand in a circle and worship the moon goddess, that would be your compassionate responsibility to do it, OP.  These parents lost their four year old!

If there is a god, I think he would also want you to just shut up and take the communion, if there was even a modicum of a chance that not doing so would cause stress to anyone else present, or divert an iota of thought/attention away from the memory of this poor little girl.[/quote]

NP. Thank you. That was my reaction to this thread. A loving God of any faith--and plain old common decency--would want OP to prioritize how she could minimize stress on the family. Not to prioritize herself and her not-quite-yet conversion (if OP is for real, which seems up for debate). And for those of you saying, "but confession," I'm not Catholic, but I truly, genuinely doubt the Catholic God is so rigid and rule-bound that he'd prefer she follow the rules and, in the process, offend a family who lost their four-year-old. C'mon, people.[/quote]

The Catholic God is pretty rigid and rule-bound!  You'd be surprised.[/quote]

Again. [b]Even the Catholic God would prioritize stopping OP from staging a big, main character sideshow at a child's funeral. [/b][/quote]

The Catholic God's Catholic son Jesus had this thing about hating performative displays of your faith, and being showy in your practice because you know people are watching you.  He said, “Be careful that you don’t practice your religion in front of people to draw their attention. If you do, you will have no reward from your Father who is in heaven."  Matthew 6:1-6.   I feel like spending time before you go to your four-year-old niece's funeral thinking about YOURSELF to the extent that you create a thread about this little communion thing at the funeral falls into that category.

Also, as a k-12 Catholic school surviver from a super Catholic family, I've been through thousands of Catholic masses, and I can tell you that it isn't unusual to see an actual, believing Catholic choose to quietly remain in the pew during communion, and nobody asks them about it or remarks on it.  If you commit a mortal sin and haven't gone to confession, you might choose to sit out communion that day, for example.  Or if you didn't fast for an hour before communion, you are supposed to sit it out, though some people still follow the "old rule" of abstaining from anything in the morning at all until after communion.  Etc.  If OP had remained in her pew quietly, it wouldn't have been odd and nobody would have demanded to know why or been scandalized.  But no, she had to get up and cross her arm with her kid to take the blessing from a priest of a religion she is currently in the process of leaving for another.  Main character syndrome, indeed.
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