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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yesterday late afternoon I went to the grocery store and almost immediately heard a child letting out loud, ear-piercing shrieks, the kind that reverberate through the aisles and make people wince. Every time it happened, I noticed other shoppers grimacing or exchanging uncomfortable looks.

This went on throughout my trip. Eventually, I ended up in the same aisle as the child, a little girl, maybe 2 or 2.5 years old, and her mom. What surprised me most was that the mom was laughing and clearly encouraging the shrieking, not trying to redirect or stop it. I was frustrated, not just by the noise, but by what felt like a complete disregard for others in the store. I walked up to their cart, looked at the child, covered my ears, and said “Ouch! Your shouting is really hurting my ears!” The little girl immediately burst into tears. The mom called me an expletive and told me I was rude. For the record, the shrieking stopped after that.

I haven’t been able to stop thinking about it. I didn’t yell or scold, I tried to speak calmly but honestly. Still, I’m wondering, was I out of line? Should I have just ignored it? How do others handle this kind of situation?[/quote]

You were more than out of line. You were a cool unicorn needing tacos.

How dare you scold someone else’s child? Like, who do you think you ARE?[/quote]

I love you.

Also, that is now my way of describing folks that are so self involved - cool unicorns needing tacos  😂😂😂😂

THANK YOU [/quote]

The only self involved person here is the mother who is letting her toddler disturb a 100 other people. The fact that you two don't see that is beyond worrying. [/quote]

Oh, get real and stop being so dramatic. I’m actually worried about the kid too. Because something’s going on but most likely they’re tired or Mom said no I’m not going to buy you string cheese today.

Children are human beings too, and sometimes they have tough moments and can’t regulate themselves as well. As adults, we can be more patient.

It was harder for me to deal with when my child was little and I was burnt out. Now I see it differently I can deal with a kid who’s making noise because if they could do better, they would.  [/quote]

Oof, people really need to learn the difference between being empathetic and respectful towards kids (good) and just abandoning them, which is what you are doing.

It is important to be understanding of kids in public spaces, and if the child had shrieked a few times, or was crying or tantrumming, I would say we need to just understand kids aren't yet adults and can't always regulate their feelings and we should extend the child, and mom, grace.

But that's not what was happening. The child was engaging in an anti-social behavior which she was capable of stopping (case in point: she did). OP let her know the behavior was anti-social, because she appeared not to know this. Now she does. Net positive.

Being empathetic and understanding towards kids doesn't mean pretending that everything they do is great and has no negative impact. Kids need to learn what behavior is okay and what is not okay.[/quote]

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