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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is a fascinating cultural difference for me. It was a huge event when our parents, or other relatives, visited. We never expected them to do anything, beyond visiting. I can't imagine being so angry and hurt that they came to visit a newborn for two hours.[/quote]

I can understand OP is hurt because she is comparing her parents to her in-laws, so she feels like her parents are letting her down.  But, as they say, comparison is the thief of joy.   [/quote]

You are saying your would only visit your newborn grandkids for two hours then go on vacation for a week? How would that make your children feel?[/quote]

Like their parents were people with independent lives who loved them enough to come to the hospital when their kids were born. You’re a greedy whiner. Are you looking forward to being a full time domestic servant for your old children the minute they have kids, saving all your money to give to them? I sure hope so. [/quote]

Grandparents benefit their grandkids and grandkids benefit grandparents. Active and involved grandparents live longer and face slower decline (google the scientific studies). have you heard of the grandmother effect? Parenthood with grandparents, aunts/uncles, cousins, etc. is the natural way of life, in a societies that don’t aim to create a worker bee out of every person for as long as humanly possible. Don’t make OP feel crazy because she feels something is off.  Maybe the grandparents never really liked parenting either or they bought into the self-centered lifestyle that seems prevalent in this thread. [/quote]

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