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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]^also, I had kids at 35 and 38, got pregnant within a few months.  Same for my friends.  Are there some women who have a hard time? Sure. I know women younger than me who had a hard time getting pregnant. It is not uncommon or unusual these days for women in their mid/late 30s to get pregnant for the first time.[/quote]
I worked with 4 other ladies from after college till our 50's. Around age 30, we all tried to get pregnant. I was the only one who conceived right away, both times. 
One went through years of trying, did invitro, and after several miscarriages (rx incompetent cervix) conceived twins but was on bedrest for 6 months.
One went through infertility treatments and finally conceived after 5 years of trying.
One had multiple miscarriages and could not carry, so her sister carried her and her husbands fertilized egg and had my co-worker's baby.
One went through over 5 years of unsuccessful infertility treatments and eventually adopted one child.

Luckily we were all paid well enough for them to afford the infertility and adoption costs. But the lesson I took away was start early. If any of them had waited until mid 30's to find out they had issues, they very well could have run out of time to conceive.

We are all still friends and get together occasionally, as some of us have retired early and some are just about to retire (we all stayed at the same company for 30+ years).

My message to young women is if having kids is really important, try not to wait much past early 30's to start trying if you can help it.
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