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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This was a very good thread, that I wanted to bring back to life if possible.  My husband has a great chance of making partner this year.  What would you say the hours are like the first two years? We have a new baby and I have been a real B to him lately as I'm always tired. I'm back at work now on a reduced schedule, but still feel overwhelmed all the time.

Anyway,  he works so hard for our family, but now I'm freaking out that this holy grail of partnership isn't going to mean more time at home with us :([/quote]

My husband is a second year equity partner, so I can tell you what the first two years have been like for us. We also have a baby.  In terms of hours, it is about the same as the final years as an associate (8 to 8 and then a few hours at home in the evening and a few hours each day of the weekend) but there has been more travel.  The travel has been mostly firm-related not client-related (anymore than usual), going to off sites, partner meetings, practice group meetings, etc.  That was one thing I hadn't anticipated. Hid firm is very international, so that might be less at a predominently U.S.-based firm.

Biglaw is always stressful, but the kind of stress has changed.  I thought it would get less because those years right before he made partner were so grueling, but now he has big firm administration responsibilities and worries over his associates billable hours numbers because he is getting direct pressure from senior management to keep profitability up.  So, the stress is different but not really less.

I am back at work 15 hours a week because I have taken a couple of small freelance jobs in my field. Basically, I am just trying to maintain my standing, but my profession when practiced full-time requires a lot of extra, last-minute work and that just isn't a possibility right now.  You will be fine if your job is contained to a set schedule that conforms to daycare or your nanny.

One thing that has improved is vacation.  As an associate, DH never felt like he could take more than a few days here or there in the years right before he made partner.  You are just always being evaluated during those years.  Now that the rubicon has been crossed, we took several nice, long vacations this year.  DH still worked a little everyday to make sure that things were running smoothly back at the office, but he felt like he didn't need to be there in person every single minute. 
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