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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I viewed using the word "a**hole" as a description of the child's behavior. It's "a**hole" behavior. So yes, I was criticizing the child's behavior.

Also my friend's lecture focused on the idea that it's unfair for me to be so negative about this kid because of her age, like she's not responsible for her behavior because she's so young. So I was responding to what my friend said. Others in the thread have argued the same thing, that by calling her an a**hole I wasn't leaving space for her to evolve as a person or something.

Just clarifying.[/quote]

You 100% did not describe her behavior. This is precisely what you wrote that you said in your first post:

[i]Yeah, I'm looking forward to middle because it will be nice to get away from this little ***hole[/i]

That’s not remotely describing her behavior. That is calling a child by a pejorative name.

So, yes, you outright lied in your title. You are  now trying to wiggle out of it, because of course it is appalling for adults to call children names, but we have your own words here.

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I absolutely called the kid a name. But yes it was based on behavior, you are skipping over an entire paragraph where I describe the kid's behavior as I also described it to my friend before calling her a "little a**hole."

It's not like I met a kid and decided immediately that she was an a**hole. Nor did I just randomly announce to my friend that the kid is an a**hole with no context. It was how I summarized the kid's personality based on lots of experience.[/quote]

Name-calling children like this is not defensible, OP. Come on. Were you taught any manners growing up? [/quote]

it’s not just the name calling - it’s holding the kid to some kind of adult-like ideal that is really the tell that OP is a splitter and grievance monger. Lines like this: “ she's also not making much effort to be kind or open-minded and she really relishes winning, which she does a lot.” I mean … the kid is *10*. This sounds wholly like OP is way to fixated on a kid who is just doing normal kid stuff in an effort to assauge anxiety about her own kid. [/quote]

You are probably right. OP does sound unhealthily fixated. [/quote]

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