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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m the special needs twin mom PP. People just don’t realize how brutal it is. Things my spouse has already done- paid for executive coach (eventually she ran out of feedback for him, said he’s already doing everything humanly possible). He’s gotten into the best shape of his life. Wardrobe and hair are good. Works on career stuff 40+ hours a week (along the lines of consulting for what he previously did). There’s only a few dozen firms in the world that hire for what he does and he’s already in touch with all of them…they’re just not hiring for now and it’s hard to know how long to wait for the market to turn before pivoting completely to try and start over on another highly paid track.

We have already cut the expenses we can- we don’t eat out, travel, cut all housekeeping and childcare help, etc, but what actually moves the needle- our insane healthcare expenses- we don’t feel like we can cut. Not without risking our severely speech delayed preschoolers ever being able to speak fluently. If not for their needs we could just downsize and be set for life, but we need the “big job” health insurance to cover ABA, speech, OT, therapies, future $$$$ autism private school tuition, etc.

I don’t express any anger at my husband (it really isn’t his fault anyway) and I tell him someday it will all work out for the best. It rings pretty hollow though.

All that to say- OP, hang in there. [/quote]

Then he needs to switch careers or you look for FT work and he takes care of the twins.

My spouse and I both lost our jobs after 2008 (years after but connected to it) and we both had to change fields.  We could not get roles in our fields.  We also took lower level roles and worked our way up.  Everyone right now is fighting for the top jobs and the top salaries.  It’s about getting in, working hard and working your way up or pivoting after a couple years for more $.  In this day and age you use your skill set and sell the skill set and switch your field or apply to different sectors to see what sticks.

You don’t need the big job health insurance.  You could go work in a school or a state office and get great healthcare.  A friends husband was laid off in private sector and he ended up getting a job with the state.  She said their insurance is so much better covers so much more and is way cheaper.  She has 3 kids two with SN.  So maybe you should look into that or he can!  State or local jobs in your area might have great health insurance.  [/quote]

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