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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My boyfriend is an amazing man. He’s very smart, hilarious, gentle, kind, emotionally available, and very loving.

His one bad trait is that he’s not a breadwinner. [b]His career is unorganized, he hates his job, is underemployed, and has no ambition.[/b]

We are mid-late 30s and want kids asap.

I have a good career and make pretty good money. I never planned to be the primary breadwinner though. I think I could financially swing it, if he remains supportive and I rev up my career more. if you’ve taken a similar path, any regrets?[/quote]

I’m actually not against SAHDs or “primary parent” dads at all. But the bold here gives me pause. It does not sound at all like he would be good at carrying a larger mental load at home or with the kids. If he is not into cooking, and is not into planning/organizing/meticulously keeping track of things, you will just end up needing to do all those things on top of making most or all do the money. [/quote]

This. It’s not about not being the breadwinner. It’s that he’s a loser in everything. [/quote]

BUT BUT he can spend a ton of time cooking a meal for OP! (And then apparently make her clean up after it since she said she'd need cleaners if they lived together...)[/quote]

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