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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This can’t be a true story when 11yos are involved. If true, your friend is way out of line. There are nuts in the world and an 11 yo is old enough to navigate that.[/quote]

OP here. It is true, but not difficult to understand if you know my friend. She’s very much a helicopter parent and there’s a lot of codependence and micromanaging. Still, she trusted me enough to remember something important, and I blew it.[/quote]

Gee, do you think she’s micromanaging and helicopter-y because a lot of adults like you have “blown it” and act like it’s a “goof”?[/quote]

Did helicopter mom tell OP that her house must be entirely nut free in order for her son to be there? That's an impossible standard for a house that isn't already nut free.[/quote]

That’s not what it’s about. It’s very hard on a kid when a trusted adult or a grandparent/aunt/whomever—who has known about the allergy for years—“goofs.” It makes them feel unsafe with someone they are supposed to trust.[/quote]

Good god. Please. The world is not responsible for kowtowing to the needs of every kid with an allergy. Really sick of this mentality. This 11 year old needs to toughen up and recognize that it is his job to navigate it. And whining to your helicopter mom is a sure fire way to find yourself uninvited to the next event. [/quote]

People are so cruel.  This is a story of a 11 year old who was served an allergen at the home of a long time family friend.

The boy did nothing wrong.  He didn’t eat the allergen and - because he is 11 - told him mother about it as I am sure he has been instructed to do.

The mother flipped out as one can easily imagine.  Her kid had a scare at a place she thought was safe.  If it was a family she didn’t know well, the content of your response (if not the delivery) might make some sense.  But the issue here is she is mad at her friend and lashing out.

The OP made a genuine mistake.  No problem.  But failing to understand why her friend is upset, and then trying to shift the blame to a 11 year old boy and his mother is where she exposes herself as being unkind.  [/quote]

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