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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Interesting that no one has focused on OPS language: “I couldn’t have been clearer and he agreed.”  Note that she doesn’t say “and he said he wanted them too.“

Not so sure he “changed his mind.”  [/quote]

Who gives a shit? She’s 31 and can still have kids elsewhere!!! Run OP!![/quote]

I am not saying she should or shouldn’t. What I am saying is that it’s not necessarily fair to blame the guy. It sounds like OP went into the marriage with a lot of wishful thinking.[/quote]

Who cares about blame. She is on the tail end of fertility and he is playing games and wasting her time.[/quote]

But because she's on the tail end of fertility, she needs to accept the real possibility that she won't have a child if she leaves him either.[/quote]
Huh? 31 is not the tail end of fertility. She has plenty of time, and suggesting she stay and actively have children with someone who specifically said they didn't want them is NOT a good plan.[/quote]

1 year divorce, 3 years to find someone, 1 year to get married, 2 years of marriage before having kids.

That's 37 years. Kids at 38 years old is how you end up with kids with ASD or Downs.[/quote]

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[b]She doesn’t have to stick to that timeline[/b]. And 38 is fine even if she does stick to your ridiculous timeline.

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No one is waiting years to get married and have kids once you hit your 30s. And you can have a happy family in a much shorter time.

I met my DH when I had just turned 27 and he was 33. We both knew we wanted multiple kids and had dated around enough to know we felt serious about each other early on.

So for me it was engaged at 28, married at 29, first baby at 30. I then had 2 more with the last being born when I was 38.

If OP is early enough in her marriage she can maybe even get an annulment. At the very least a no contest divorce without kids can be complete within 6 months in VA.

In the meantime she takes a little time for herself (therapy maybe, yoga, gets herself in peak shape). Hits the dating market 6 months from now and if she dates guys who are at least ~34/35 she will probably find ones who want to settle down. Let’s say she is engaged by 33, married at 34, has a couple kids at 35 and 37. Totally doable. [/quote]

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