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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do you love him? You can be happy childfree. [/quote]
Does he love her? Love is not lying about your intentions to manipulate a person.[/quote]

It’s not that you can’t be happy without kids. It’s staying married to a spouse who you know will lie to you, even about very important things, to get his way. If I were OP I’d spend the rest of the marriage wondering what else is lying about, or will lie about, down the line. Not to mention he clearly doesn’t care about her feelings.

The way I see it, OP wants kids. She isn’t going to get them in this marriage (at least not in any healthy way without having to lie about BC or persuade him into fatherhood which can lead to resentment). So the whole happy marriage + kids thing is dead at this point. She can either stay in it or try to find someone else.

Is it a gamble? Of course. She could divorce and not get remarried in time for kids, or not be able to have kids, or fall in love with someone who openly doesn’t want them, or decide to become a SMBC and not get married. But at least however her life plays out it won’t be built on someone’s lying.

At 31 she is way too young to spend the next 5 decades of her life with someone who would betray her like this.[/quote]

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