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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Interesting that no one has focused on OPS language: “I couldn’t have been clearer and he agreed.”  Note that she doesn’t say “and he said he wanted them too.“

Not so sure he “changed his mind.”  [/quote]

Who gives a shit? She’s 31 and can still have kids elsewhere!!! Run OP!![/quote]

I am not saying she should or shouldn’t. What I am saying is that it’s not necessarily fair to blame the guy. It sounds like OP went into the marriage with a lot of wishful thinking.[/quote]

Who cares about blame. She is on the tail end of fertility and he is playing games and wasting her time.[/quote]

But because she's on the tail end of fertility, she needs to accept the real possibility that she won't have a child if she leaves him either.[/quote]
Huh? 31 is not the tail end of fertility. She has plenty of time, and suggesting she stay and actively have children with someone who specifically said they didn't want them is NOT a good plan.[/quote]

1 year divorce, 3 years to find someone, 1 year to get married, 2 years of marriage before having kids.

That's 37 years. Kids at 38 years old is how you end up with kids with ASD or Downs.[/quote]

It's 6 months without kids in VA (and DC I believe).

Why can't she start dating as soon as she tells him it's over? Obviously be open with the people you're dating that the divorce isn't final yet but no one will care.

On what planet does it take 3 years to find someone?!? Maybe for you...

I got divorced at 30 (no kids, my choice). Met my now husband a year later at 31. We dated for almost 2 years and eloped at 33 (we are almost exactly the same age, he had also been married before, no kids). After one year I got pregnant immediately (no assistance) with twins, and had them right before I turned 35. 15 years later here we are, very happy.

When I got divorced at 30 I was willing to be single and childless for the rest of my life rather than stay married to my ex. He wasn't abusive or an alcoholic or anything like that but we had met young and were very incompatible in terms of long-term life goals.[/quote]

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