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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I also have a freshman. 
Are the exams before or after Xmas?  
If before -- I would go back to H and say "Look, this all stinks, but I think you should delay moving out until after Xmas because this wil lbe hard on Larlo and we both want her to do well this semester.  We can be civil to each other for two months and tell her at the end of break."

If after -- I think I would call her now and say something like ---  "Honey, I have some news.  Your dad has decided to move out.  He's seeing someone else.  It's obviously a little surprising, probably for both of us, but the important thing is that we both love you and our problems are not your problem.   We'll deal with it all like grownups and try to keep you out of it.   I can't wait to see you at Thanksgiving, and I'd really like for us both to go to Neighor Sally's like we planned, but probably without your dad if that's okay with you.  You don't have to say anything now -- you can just think about it.  Do you want to talk about anything now?"  [/quote]

Junior in college, not a Freshman,🙄 and dh called him right after our conversation, but didn't tell me he was going to break the news. So the cat is out of the bag. DC texted me that dh had called him.  He's coming back for Thanksgiving. I said we were invited to my best friend's house but I understood totally if he didn't want to do that. He actually said "I would love to do that and we can do some baking and bring dessert" (He's a fab. baker). He said he wants to hang with friends over the weekend but also wants to go see a show with me. Some of his closest friends have been through their parents divorcing and he said he's been talking to them about this, and that it's weird but wasn't totally surprising. So that's where we are right now. Meanwhile I'm interviewing lawyers...[/quote]

That all sounds good.  You two seem to have open communication and that is great.  [/quote]

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