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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]^^ Oh and to add, the people I know who seem overwhelmed with 3 are the families with surprise twins or who had 3 in quick succession. Having money obviously helps though.

But kids become more independent as time goes on. My older kids are helpful around the house. So I’m not as overwhelmed as when they were very young. 3 kids under 5 would be a very different experience than an 8 y/o, 5 y/o, and baby. [/quote]

Having money doesn’t create more parental time. Time is finite. [/quote]

It creates more free time if you can use the money to outsource cleaning and other chores. [/quote]
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Yes but parents of one and two kids can do all the too. Having more kids means they still get less time from parents. [/quote]

No it doesn’t. There is just more together time than one-on-one time. [/quote]

Which is less ideal for the child. [/quote]

OP here. I’m the youngest of four kids. I don’t think a bigger family is less ideal for the kid. My siblings are my best friends and we’re still incredibly close. Our house was fun, rambunctious, and filled with humor (And of course sibling rivalry) growing up. It’s still that way when we’re all together. DH is one of two kids and his family is close-ish but is way more uptight and nowhere near as jovial. He’s not close with his only sibling. His parents, who are generally lovely, still hover over their two adult children. I think there are pros and cons to smaller families and larger ones, but for parents who want more kids and can handle the stress, logistics, and finances of raising a large family of well rounded kids, it’s really nice. [/quote]
And then there are the parents who cannot handle it, but have more kids anyhow. I am the middle child, and my older sibling is now a controlling jerk and my younger (by 5 years) sibling is a classic third child who is still treated like the baby of the family even though sibling is in their mid-30s. All family dynamics are just a luck of the draw. I should have two siblings to lean on in my adult life, and I have 0.

I don't think people really think through the age gaps enough. My younger sibling was not even in high school when I left for college. Younger sib had five years effectively as an only child. My parents had different rules, expectations, and time with him. I knew I wanted kids much closer in age, if I could help it. And it's why I'm done now, because my youngest is almost 5 and there is no way I'd add another kid to my family now.[/quote]

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