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Months after this thread but maybe still helpful:

Flaunting is practically a bad idea because you will find envy extremely alive; you might think people would be impressed but instead only negative feelings are evoked.  So, instead:

We omit a lot of mention in convos.  We don’t mention we are in a country club.  When the topic of flights come up, we do not mention business class.  We do not mention multiple homes, hotel names, a lot of other things.  Such convos are constrained, always.  If others mention more things giving indicators, we might share a bit more, cautiously.

Meanwhile, we do live our lives.  People would call it living it up, we see it as living within our means.  My kid is always being advised by me on how to say something; if I can’t trust her (being 8) to not disclose revealing things, I myself will not give her certain information.  This is to her peers in her fairly notable private school.

It’s not shame (we earned it and it took time), but that there is zero gain in flaunting.  Envy is extremely pervasive, seems a knee-jerk reaction, even to some very educated people.

What we want to do is learn from/befriend those more well-off/successful than us, but they are usually doing the same (hiding), no doubt for the same reason, so there’s no one to have free chats with.  The only more free forum is where those present, to be in the social setting, there was a threshold for access.  There, still, understating everything, because of habit.[/quote]

My take is it's impossible. You can dance around trying not to offend and trigger, but ultimately it is triggering to people. It's easier hanging out with people who are about the same socio-economically. I am not rich and find it easier myself.[/quote]

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